宁波95后姑娘举办“四无婚礼”火了！没有仪式，人齐就开饭，每位宾客还收到200元红包

这几天，浙江宁波市民卢女士发布在微信上的一张有关外甥女“四无婚礼”的贴图，引来了不少朋友的点赞。

这场婚礼没有接亲仪式、没有婚车、没有司仪、没有跟妆师和摄影摄像，连新人入场都省了，却广受亲友好评。

A young couple in Ningbo, Zhejiang province, have won widespread praise online for a "four-no" wedding that stripped away almost every traditional ritual: no bride-fetching ceremony, no wedding cars, no emcee, and no professional stylist or photographer.

“如果为了办婚礼把爸妈累倒

那太不值了”

婚礼主角是95后的新娘小朱和丈夫小王。小朱是宁波鄞州咸祥人，丈夫小王是台州人，两人都在上海工作。

The bride, surnamed Zhu, is a post-95s woman from Xianxiang township in Ningbo's Yinzhou district. Her husband, surnamed Wang, is from Taizhou. Both work in Shanghai. 

今年9月，两人完成了人生大事——

9月12日在男方老家台州办了一场婚礼；

9月26日在女方老家咸祥镇球东村文化礼堂又办了一次。

两场婚礼有个共同点，无接亲，无婚车，无司仪，无跟妆师和摄影摄像，连伴郎伴娘都没请。

They held two banquets. One in Wang's hometown on Sept 12 and another at a cultural hall in Zhu's home village on Sept 26. Neither of which featured any of the trappings of a conventional Chinese wedding.

LED屏幕上写着几行字：“感谢大家前来参加我们的喜宴，不够吃可以吃隔壁桌，酒菜微薄，招待不周，没有仪式，人齐就开饭……”

现场只有一个环节，小朱的父亲上台，讲了41秒，大意是中秋团圆之际感谢亲朋好友到来，希望大家吃好喝好，说完便开席。

A message displayed on the LED screen set the tone: "Thank you all for coming to our wedding banquet. If there's not enough at your table, feel free to eat at the next one. There is no ceremony. We'll start the meal as soon as everyone is here."

The only formal moment came when Zhu's father took the stage for 41 seconds to thank guests and wish them a happy Mid-Autumn Festival before declaring the banquet open.

小朱的妆容是当天早上在婚礼拍摄基地化好的，席间换装造型自己完成，自己买了一套新中式婚纱。

咸祥这场，LED屏幕、音响、话筒是租的，布置材料从淘宝买来，全部自己DIY。

Zhu did her own makeup that morning, handled her own outfit changes during the meal, and bought a single new Chinese-style wedding dress. 

For the Xianxiang banquet, the LED screen, sound system, and microphones were rented, while all decorations were bought on Taobao and assembled by the couple themselves.

对于记者的询问，小朱的解释很直接：她和丈夫都是“i人”，不喜欢热闹场面；更重要的是，不想给别人添麻烦，不想折腾自己，更不想辛苦爸妈。

Zhu explained their choices bluntly. Both she and her husband are introverts who dislike big, noisy occasions. More importantly, they did not want to impose on others, exhaust themselves, or wear out their parents.

婚宴现场

这不是一句客套话。小朱参加过很多亲戚朋友的盛大婚礼，印象最深的不是浪漫，而是累——新人累、父母累、宾客也累。

她见过太多婚礼上父母忙前忙后，最后累倒生病的例子。“如果为了给我们办婚礼，把爸妈累倒生病了，那太不值了。”

Zhu had seen too many cases of parents running themselves ragged and falling ill. "If we tire out our parents to the point of sickness just to hold a wedding, that's just not worth it," she said.

这样的想法，起初并不被父母接受。台州那场，父母觉得好歹要安排婚车队，结果小两口只是简单地从酒店自己开车到婚礼现场。

不过，小朱夫妻俩并非没有自己的坚持。他们选择去云南丽江拍婚纱照，以玉龙雪山为背景。

“婚礼视频一般不会再去看，但婚纱照在我喜欢的地方拍，对我来说就很有意义。”小朱说，所以在他们的婚礼现场，LED屏上一直循环播放着丽江婚纱视频集锦，这是整场婚礼的“仪式感”之一。

The couple did splurge on one thing: a pre-wedding photo shoot in Lijiang, Yunnan province, set against the backdrop of Jade Dragon Snow Mountain. 

"Wedding videos are usually never watched again, but photos taken somewhere I love mean a lot to me," Zhu said. A montage of their Lijiang photos played on a loop at both banquets, which was the one piece of ritual they kept.

仪式做减法，宴席做加法。

小朱介绍，咸祥的这场婚宴，买菜花了7万多元，请的是她爸爸的厨师朋友掌勺，菜品更是实打实的硬菜，蒜蓉帝王蟹、小米辽参、白灼黑金鲍等一个不少，陆续上桌。

While they stripped back the ceremony, they went all out on the food. The Xianxiang banquet cost over 70,000 yuan in ingredients alone, with Zhu's father's chef friend doing the cooking. Dishes included garlic king crab, millet with sea cucumber, and poached black gold abalone.

更让宾客意外的是红包——9月26日晚宴，每位前来吃席的人都收到了新人赠送的200元红包；凡是送过礼金的，再追加100元，光红包部分，小朱她们就送出了六七万元。

Guests were further surprised by red envelopes: each attendee at the Sept 26 dinner received 200 yuan from the couple, and those who had given gift money received an additional 100 yuan. The couple handed out 60,000 to 70,000 yuan in total.

“其实按照我们咸祥的习俗，是给宾客送烟的。但我想想，现在很多人都不抽烟了，不如换成红包来得实在。”小朱说。

卢女士是小朱的阿姨，她笑道：“我真的挺吃惊，但是菜品是真好，算是我吃过最好吃的宴席了。”

"In Xianxiang, the custom is to give guests cigarettes, but I figured many people don't smoke anymore, so a red envelope is more practical," Zhu said.

Lu, Zhu's aunt, said she was taken aback but delighted. "The food was genuinely excellent, probably the best banquet I've ever had," she said.

这句带着笑意的“吐槽”，恰恰点出了这场婚礼的意义：把花销重点分配给了菜品和宾客，新人省去了繁琐流程，宾客得到了实惠，父母免于操劳。

Her bemused praise captures the essence of the wedding: money spent where it mattered most, while the couple avoided tedious formalities, guests received real value, and parents were spared the strain.

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来源：宁波日报 人民日报 新华每日电讯