基辛格不为人知的11个故事
赵旭约 23 分钟美国资深记者理查德·瓦莱里亚尼（Richard Valeriani）在其著作《与亨利同行》（Travels With Henry）中描述了这样一个场景：
在尼克松总统任期内担任国家安全顾问及国务卿的亨利·基辛格，在参加一些美国国务院举办的活动时常常会问：“这些人都是谁啊？”
继而，他会略带不屑地指出：“我和另外五个人一起打开了中国的大门。”
尼克松总统和基辛格博士
In his book Travels With Henry, veteran US journalist Richard Valeriani describes a scene in which Henry Kissinger, the national security advisor and later secretary of state to President Richard Nixon, walked in on an elaborate State Department meeting. Valeriani writes, "He would invariably ask, ‘Who are all these people?’ And then he would point out with some disdain, ‘I opened up China with five people.’"
“在中国，他完全变成了另一个人。”瓦莱里亚尼写道。
这位国际事务记者跟随基辛格“飞行了50多万英里”，看着他“名气日隆，腰围也跟着猛长”。“他从早到晚一直在谈判，一谈判就紧张，一紧张就要吃东西。”
下面是关于亨利·基辛格的一些不太为人所知的故事，让你从不同的视角了解这个“口音厚重，眼镜更厚”，且改变了世界的战略外交家。
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提前到来的胃痛和忘记带上飞机的衬衫
The stomachache that had arrived early & the missing shirt
1971年7月9日黎明时分。
基辛格和另外三名美国人乘坐一架巴基斯坦飞机绕过全球第二高峰乔戈里峰进入中国领空，这就是今天广为人知的基辛格秘密访华。
At the dawn on July 9, 1971, Kissinger was sitting with three other Americans on a Pakistani plane as it skirted the planet’s second-tallest peak before entering Chinese airspace in what’s known as Kissinger’s secret visit.
这位国家安全顾问在他公开宣布的包括越南、泰国、印度和巴基斯坦在内的亚洲之行的最后一站——巴基斯坦——以胃疼为理由从公众视线中消失了。
当几乎所有人都以为他在一处山间处所休养时，一直作为美国和中国之间主要沟通渠道的巴基斯坦人把他和他的四人小组的其他成员，送到了首都伊斯兰堡的一个机场。
从那里，他们出发飞往中国。
Part of the ruse to keep the visit truly secret was faking an upset stomach. On the last leg of a publicly-announced trip that included Vietnam, Thailand, India and Pakistan, Kissinger and his accompanying team told the world that he had to recuperate for several days in a hill station due to a stomachache. During this time, the Pakistanis, who had been acting as a major channel of communication between the Americans and the Chinese, transported Kissinger and his four-man group to an airport in Islamabad.
然而，据基辛格70年代的高级助理温斯顿·洛德（Winston Lord）说，这其中还有一个曲折：“具有讽刺意味的是，基辛格在印度期间真的胃痛了，他尽可能地掩盖这件事，因为想把‘胃疼’留到巴基斯坦。”
However, there is a twist to that story, said Winston Lord, Kissinger’s top aide in the 70s who was with him during the trip. "Ironically, Kissinger came down with a real stomachache in India, and covered this up as much as possible because he wanted to save his real illness until he arrived in Pakistan," he said.
飞机从伊斯兰堡起飞后，基辛格突然意识到，替他收拾行李的人忘了放入换洗的衬衫，他大发雷霆。
于是，基辛格第一次见到中国总理周恩来时，穿的是与他同行的同事约翰·霍尔德里奇（John Holdridge）的衬衫，长出来的袖子用橡皮筋扎了起来。
1972年2月21日，尼克松与毛泽东在北京会面。左起：周恩来、唐闻生（翻译）、毛泽东、尼克松、基辛格、洛德和王海容
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与毛泽东和周恩来对话
In conversation with Mao and Zhou
在基辛格的描述中，周恩来是一位“在哲学、历史和战略战术方面都很精通同时又妙语连珠的交谈者。”
很显然，他在这位中国总理身上看到了自己的影子。
基辛格与中国总理周恩来在1971年秘密访问中国期间 / 美国国会图书馆，亨利·基辛格档案馆
在2011年出版的《论中国》（On China）一书中，基辛格详细描述了他们在1971年7月秘密访华期间的一系列会晤，有些会晤可以一次继续7个小时。
在解释该书的写作目的时，基辛格说：“这本书阐释了中国人对和平、战争和国际秩序等问题的抽象化和具有前瞻性的思考方式，以及这种思维方式与更注重当下现实的，希望逐个解决问题的美式外交思维之间的关系。”
周恩来与基辛格在北京
Depicting the late Chinese premier Zhou Enlai as "equally at home in philosophical sweeps, historical analysis, tactical probing and light repartee", Kissinger clearly saw kindred spirit. And he detailed their meetings in 1971, some stretching for seven hours in one sitting, in the 2011 book On China, written to explain the conceptual way the Chinese think about problems of peace and war and international order.
“中国人不认为谈判的最终目的是解决一个个具体的问题，他们认为每一个问题的答案都是另一个问题产生的入场券。他们从一个不断变化的过程的角度出发去思考……因此，中国外交官认为与谈判者维持良好的关系是一项重要的任务，甚至可能比签署正式文件更重要。”
基辛格说：“在这思维模式下，热情好客本来就是战略外交的一个方面。”
上世纪80年代的邓小平与基辛格
"The Chinese don't think of negotiations as solving individual problems. They think that every solution is an admission ticket for another problem. They think in terms of processes… Hence Chinese diplomats consider continuity of relationships an important task and perhaps more important than formal documents," conceded Kissinger. "In this context, hospitality becomes an aspect of strategy."
1972年2月21日下午，尼克松一行抵达北京的第一天下午，基辛格就陪同尼克松第一次见到了毛泽东。
这位中国领导人给基辛格留下了深刻的印象：“他站在哪里，就是哪里的中心。”
1973年11月24日，毛泽东在北京会见基辛格
基辛格后来写到：毛泽东“几乎总是以一个问题开始对话”，然后“用苏格拉底式的问答”来引领话题。
起初，基辛格对毛泽东的“隐晦的评论”和“深奥的语言”感到有些困惑，但他很快就发现对方是一位务实的战略家，“对事情的轻重缓急”有充分的把握。
Kissinger first met Mao in the afternoon of February 21, 1972, the first day the President Nixon and his entourage's arrival in Beijing. Impressing Kissinger with "the quality of being at the center of wherever he stood".
The Chinese chairman had a distinctive conversational style, typically initiating discussions with a question and then engaging in a Socratic dialogue to answer it, as per Kissinger's observation. Although initially puzzled by Mao's "elliptical comments" and "abstruse language," Kissinger swiftly recognized in him a strategic and pragmatic thinker who understood the importance of setting priorities.
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国际象棋 VS 围棋
Chess VS Wei Qi
一个帮助基辛格试图解读“中国式的现实主义政治”的物品，是围棋的棋盘，围棋起源于2500多年前的中国，是两个棋手试图通过包围来击败对方的游戏。
基辛格认为，从历史上看，对于幅员辽阔的中国来说，被对手包围是其“最大的战略担忧”。
One place where Kissinger had tried to grasp the essence of what he dubbed "the Chinese realpolitik" was in playing the Chinese game Go, or Wei Qi. Invented in China more than 2500 years ago, the game is played between two opponents who try to defeat each other by encirclement, which Kissinger believes historically has been "the greatest strategic fear" for China, with its vast periphery.
基辛格在《论中国》中写道：“西方的国际象棋往往激发棋手的单线思维，而围棋需要通观全局的战略灵活性。”
基辛格与尼克松共同认为，与中国寻求外交关系“并非为了联合中国对付苏联，而是为了将美国置于一个有利的平衡点上——同时给中苏两个共产主义国家一个与美国交好的理由。”
用基辛格的话来说，就是“最大程度的外交灵活性”。
"Chess produces single-mindedness, Wei Qi generates strategic flexibility," wrote Kissinger in his 2011 book On China. Kissinger shared the view with Nixon that moving to China was "not to collude against the Soviet Union but to give us a balancing position to use for constructive ends – to give each Communist power a stake in better relations with us." In other words, “maximum diplomatic flexibility” as Kissinger calls it.
对基辛格来说，围棋“牵一发而动全身”的特点恰恰为尼克松和他的外交战略提供了某种隐喻：
“多处较量同时在棋盘中上演着，力量之间的对比和平衡，随着每一颗棋子移动而改变，”基辛格写道。
Kissinger also found in Wei Qi an apt metaphor for the balance of power and the concept of linkage, "Multiple contests take place simultaneously in different regions of the board. The balance of forces shifts incrementally with each move," observed Kissinger.
Contrary to some Soviet experts' beliefs, Kissinger predicted that the US-China rapprochement would not further alienate the Soviet Union but rather provide an incentive for détente.
基辛格博士对由世界各国之间的相互依存而构成的网络具有直觉性的敏感，这使得他对中美开放所可能产生的结果作出了与尼克松政府内的一些“苏联问题专家”截然相反的预测。
基辛格认为，中美开放不但不会激怒苏联，反而会带给苏联压力，使其更有动力和美国缓和关系。
在此之前，美苏在包括裁减武器在内的很多问题的谈判上陷入了僵局。
事实证明基辛格是正确的。
基式外交
The Diplomacy of Dr. Kissinger
1940年，16岁的基辛格在逃离纳粹德国来到美国不到两年后，给一位名叫伊迪丝的女孩子写了一封未寄出的信。
伊迪丝也是不久前从基辛格的德国老家弗斯（Furth）逃过来的犹太移民。在信中，被强烈的爱慕和嫉妒折磨的基辛格建议伊迪丝不要和他们圈子里的另外两个男孩交往。
In 1940, less than two years after fleeing Nazi Germany, the 16-year-old Kissinger wrote an unsent letter to a young lady named Edith, who was also a recent Jewish immigrant from Furth, Kissinger's German hometown. In the letter, Kissinger, in the grip of an intense teenage crush and violent jealousy, advised her against a friendship with two other boys in their circle.
“我想提醒你提防库尔特，因为他的邪恶，他在追求自己的野心时完全无视任何道德标准；同时你也要提防奥普斯，因为他想在思想上主宰你，在物质上控制你……最后，请允许我再次重申，如果你认为我写这封信纯粹是出于自私的动机，我会感到非常遗憾……”少年基辛格写到。
"I want to caution you against Kurt because of his wickedness, his utter disregard of any moral standards while he is pursuing his ambitions, and against Oppus because of his desire to dominate you ideologically and monopolize you physically… While concluding, may I reiterate again, that I would regret it very much if you were to ascribe purely selfish motives to my writing this letter…"
这封信让我们看到了年轻的基辛格惊人的文字表达能力，它被收入2015年出版的《基辛格1923-1968：理想主义者》（Kissinger 1923-1968: The Idealist）一书中。
本书的作者、苏格兰裔美国历史学家尼尔·弗格森（Niall Ferguson）在序言中讲述了他当初明确拒绝写基辛格的传记后，这位外交大师的表现，弗格森称其为：“我的基式外交入门体验”。
基辛格和他的传记作者尼尔·弗格森
“真可惜！收到你的（拒绝）来信时，我正在寻找你的电话号码。” 基辛格在回信中写道：“我就是想告诉你我发现了一些我以为已经遗失的文件：145个盒子，由一位现已去世的保管员存放在康涅狄格州的一个仓库里的，里面都是我的文件资料……”
“几周后，”弗格森在书中写道：“我已经在美国康涅狄格肯特郡翻看这些资料了。”
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基辛格规则
The Kissinger Rule
1950年，基辛格完成了著名的本科论文《历史的意义：对斯宾格勒、汤因比和康德的思考》。这部383页的论文不仅让人们领略了基辛格过人的才智——这种才智使得他在之后漫长的外交生涯中得以让世界上最具智慧的一些政治家乐于和其打交道——还成为了哈佛大学历史上由本科毕业生所撰写的最长的论文。
这促使哈佛提出了“基辛格规则”，将之后所有本科毕业生的论文字数限制在这个长度的三分之一左右。
In 1950, Kissinger completed his renowned undergraduate thesis The Meaning of History: Reflections on Spengler, Toynbee, and Kant. At 383 pages, it has not only offered an impressive display of Kissinger's intellectual brilliance but has also gone down in history as the longest-ever thesis written by a Harvard senior. It prompted, perhaps not so surprisingly, the Harvard College to come up with "the Kissinger rule" limiting all future endeavors from its undergraduate students to about one-third of that length.
论文研究的三位人物之中，18世纪德国古典主义哲学家康德（Immanuel Kant）被基辛格称为“对我影响最大的人”。他在分析康德的永久和平论（perpetual peace）时写到：“因此，和平是人类努力的最崇高目标，是对人类道德人格终极性的界定。”
"Peace is therefore the noblest goal of human endeavor, the affirmation of the ultimacy of man’s moral personality," Kissinger wrote, referring to his study of Immanuel Kant, the man "who has influenced me the most".
1973年9月24日，新当选的美国国务卿基辛格在联合国大会上发表演讲说：“两个世纪前，哲学家康德预言，永久和平最终会到来——要么是人类道德提升使然，要么是作为物质发展的必然结果。当时看似充满乌托邦意味的东西，现在看来很可能成为现实。我们没有太多选择：《联合国宪章》中设想的那个再无纷争的世界如果不是因为我们远见卓识而到来，就一定会因为我们的短视和由此引发的人类的灭顶之灾而到来。”
On September 24, 1973, in addressing the UN General Assembly, Kissinger the newly-elected US Secretary of state said, "...what seemed utopian then looms as tomorrow’s reality; soon there will be no alternative. Our only choice is whether the world envisaged in the UN charter will come about as the result of our vision or of a catastrophe invited by our shortsightedness."
弗格森说：“尽管基辛格在1950年之后的几乎所有著作都是和历史而非哲学密切相关的，他却一再提到康德。他这样做是想向世界表明，他不是一个现实主义者，但世界不愿意听他讲。”
"Although Kissinger ceased to be much concerned with philosophy – almost all his writings after 1950 is essentially historical – he kept referring to Kant," said Ferguson. "By doing so he was trying to signal to the world that he's not a realist, but the world didn't want to listen."
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“现在我可以开始读了……”
"Then I’ll read it…"
洛德说: “亨利对（稿子）质量的要求近乎疯狂。”
他回忆起基辛格如何让他反复修改为其撰写的演讲稿。每次洛德呈上一个新的版本时，基辛格都会说：“这是你能做到的最好吗?”
"Henry’s demand for excellence could have a chilling effect on people who worked for him," said Lord, recalling how Kissinger kept him working on a speech he was preparing for him, rejecting the first few drafts Lord had presented to him with the question "Is this best you can do?"
“在交了第六稿后，我明确告诉他说：‘每个介词和分号我都仔细琢磨过了，再无更多改动可以做了。’基辛格笑着看着我说：‘既然如此，现在我可以开始读了……’”洛德回忆道。
这位助理后来告诉和他有同样遭遇的基辛格的下属们说：“把你最精彩的部分保存下来，放在一边儿，等到你写到第四或第五稿的时候再把它们放回去。”
2015年到2016年间，洛德与基辛格进行了一系列深度访谈，并将内容结集成书《基辛格谈基辛格》，这本书的中文版近期已经上架。
The Chinese version of Lord's book Kissinger on Kissinger, comprised of a number of riveting interviews Lord did with his mentor 2015 and 2016, has just hit shelves in China.
洛德说：“基辛格的办公室里挂着一张大猩猩的图片，并附有一行字，大意是: ‘我会打得你们把真实想法从肚子里吐出来！’” “这就是他——欢迎任何争论和不同意见，只要这些意见是深思熟虑后（提出）的，而不是草率的有感而发。”
"That’s him – always welcoming debate and argumentation, even if it's against his own views. But it has to be rigorously presented and not sentimental or sloppy."
有一次，为了测试基辛格是否认真阅读了他提交的报告，洛德在他关于柬埔寨的报告中间插入了一句由基辛格的几本书的书名组成的句子。基辛格，这个颇为多产的作家，顺利通过了测试。
饱受过基辛格历练的洛德则在多年后的1985年到1989年期间担任美国驻中国大使。
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“这是世界上最差劲的棋手在给最优秀的棋手打电话。”
"This is the worst chess player in the world calling the best."
According to Ferguson, Kissinger stopped talking to him for three months after reading the draft of his 2015 biography, which covered Kissinger's years up to the eve of his appointment by Nixon as his national security advisor in January 1969. "He felt that the book was too revealing," said Ferguson.
1972年7月，美国国际象棋大师鲍比·费雪（Bobby Fisher）威胁要退出与当时的世界冠军、来自苏联的鲍里斯·斯帕斯基（Boris Spassky）的一场在世界象棋锦标赛上的极具象征意义的对决。
基辛格，一个青年时期颇为专业的棋手，亲自拨通了费雪的电话。他的开场白是：“这是世界上最糟糕的棋手在给最优秀的棋手打电话。”
In July 1972, after US chess grandmaster Bobby Fisher threatened to walk out on the symbolic world championship chess match with the title holder, Boris Spassky of the Soviet Union, Kissinger called up Fisher to persuade him to go. Kissinger, "a serious chess player in his youth" according to Ferguson, would opened the conversation by saying that "this is the worst chess player in the world calling the best one".
基辛格告诉弗格森，他拒绝与苏联驻美大使、他70年代对苏问题的主要谈判对手阿纳托利·多勃雷宁（Anatoly Dobrynin）下棋，因为那样会过多地暴露他的思维模式，多勃雷宁称基辛格是“唯一一个学会用筷子吃鱼子酱的人”。
Around that time, he refused to play chess with Soviet ambassador to the US Anatoly Dobrynin, who called him "the only person who had learned to eat caviar with chopsticks", because "that would reveal too much about his personality and psychology", Kissinger told Ferguson.
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“权力是春药”
"Power is aphrodisiac"
2013年访华期间，基辛格在上海复旦大学美国研究中心与学生们进行了交流。据中心主任吴心伯说，当一个学生开玩笑说他的名字听起来像“kiss-girl”（吻一个女孩）时，这位90岁的老人回答说“权力是春药”——这句话的原创是拿破仑，基辛格的英文表达更加简短，使得这句话流行起来。
吴心伯与基辛格
During his 2013 China visit, Kissinger sat down to talk with students at Fudan University’s Center for American Studies.
According to his host, the center's director Wu Xinbo, a student joked that his name sounded like "kiss-girl", the 90-year-old answered by saying that "power is an aphrodisiac", paraphrasing Napoleon Bonaparte.
谈到拿破仑的兵败流放，基辛格说： “一个在战场上呼风唤雨的将军是很难回到谈判桌上的，因为谈判本身就意味着承认自身力量的局限性。”
一个有趣的事实是：基辛格和拿破仑的身高都是1.73米。
Reflecting on Napoleon's ultimate defeat, Kissinger remarked, "A man who has been used to command... finds it almost impossible to learn to negotiate because negotiation is an admission of finite power."
在基辛格担任国务卿期间，他经常会被媒体拍到与包括好莱坞明星在内的各种美女在一起的照片。然而据洛德说，那些年，基辛格唯一真正喜欢的人就是他的第二任太太南希。
这位女士此前曾长期担任前纽约州州长纳尔逊·洛克菲勒的助理，基辛格1974年与她举行婚礼，洛德作为为数不多的嘉宾之一受邀参加。
洛德说：“那些与名媛女演员的传闻纯粹就是基辛格为了营造神秘感的公关活动，是声东击西之举。”
基辛格曾在越战和谈期间在巴黎的一家餐厅被拍到同一位美女记者进餐，而此前，他刚刚和同在巴黎的北越外长黎德寿（Le Duc Tho）进行了秘密磋商。
Lord shared an anecdote, emphasizing the performative nature of Kissinger's public image. Recalling a particular instance, Lord mentioned Kissinger taking an attractive journalist to dinner in a Paris restaurant immediately after a secret meeting with Le Duc Tho, his North Vietnamese counterpart involved in the negotiation of the Paris Accords.
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“彼此警惕，彼此依赖”
"Mixing wariness with co-dependence"
《时代》杂志前主编、1992年出版的《基辛格传》的作者沃尔特·艾萨克森（Walter Isaacson）形容尼克松与基辛格的关系是“彼此警惕而又彼此依赖”。
据他说，尼克松预计到基辛格会在“秘密访华”之后声名大噪，于是在访华日期逼近之时，“在到底派谁去中国的这个问题上近乎残忍地折磨着基辛格”。
Walter Isaacson, the former editor of Time magazine and the author of the 1992 book Kissinger: A Biograph, characterized the relationship between Nixon and Kissinger as a complex interplay of wariness and codependence.
According to him, Nixon, restive at the potential publicity Kissinger might generate for himself, had been "merciless in toying with him on the issue (of who would go to China)" in the days leading up to the secret visit.
总统的担心很快变成了现实：基辛格在秘密访华后一举成名。
1972年2月，尼克松对中国的访问在美国公众中获得了巨大成功，基辛格的知名度也随着持续攀升。
The president's conern wasn't unwarranted: Kissinger shot to international fame upon the revelation of the secret visit. And that fame continued to grow, after Nixon's February 1972 visit proved hugely successfully with the American public.
到了1972年底，出于对他与尼克松的敏感关系考虑，基辛格亲自给当时的《时代》杂志的执行主编打去电话，试图说服对方把自己从即将出版的一期周刊封面上撤下来。
基辛格没有成功：他和尼克松一起作为前一年的年度风云人物出现在1973年1月1日出版的《时代》周刊封面上。
1973 年1月1日，基辛格和尼克松作为年度人物登上了《时代》杂志封面
Towards the end of that year, Kissinger, recognizing the delicate nature of the matter, felt the need to contact Time magazine's managing editor-in-chief. He attempted, albeit unsuccessfully, to have himself removed from the cover of the magazine. Kissinger ultimately shared the cover with Nixon in the January 1, 1973, issue, recognized as one of the co-Men of the Year.
此后，基辛格又发现穿着超人服装的自己，以“超级K”的名字登上了《新闻周刊》的封面。
幽默与自嘲
Humor and self-deprecation
1973年3月，尼克松和基辛格与周恩来谈判，要求提前释放1952年朝鲜战争期间被中国俘获的美国中央情报局特工杰克·唐尼，理由是唐尼的母亲刚刚经历了严重中风，已经时日无多，中方随即释放了唐尼。
In March, 1973, Nixon and Kissinger negotiated with Zhou Enlai the release of Jack Downey, a CIA agent captured by the Chinese during the Korean War in 1952, on the ground that Downey's mother had just suffered a severe stroke and couldn't wait for long to see the return of her son.
据洛德说，两年之后的1975年，福特已经继任尼克松成为总统，而唐尼的母亲不仅还活着，而且颇为健康。于是，洛德在基辛格授意下给福特提交了一份备忘录。
"Flash forward two years, now Mr. Ford was the president and Downey’s mother was not only alive but was in very good health," said Lord, who helped to write a memo from Kissinger to Ford concerning the issue.
洛德回忆道：“我们说，总统先生，我们现在和中国人之间有一个非常严重的问题，一个令我们很尴尬的问题……我们目前有三个选择：第一，由你出面公开向中国人道歉；第二，把唐尼送回中国；第三，让中情局的人杀了唐尼妈妈。这样，我们就可以恢复与中国的关系了。”
福特，按照洛德的说法：“是一个好人，但却并不总是反应最快的人。”
他读了备忘录，看着基辛格，严肃地说：“亨利，这些都不是好的选择啊。”
"Mr. President, we have a very serious problem with the Chinese and it's embarrassing," recalled Lord. "So we have three options now. Option one is for you to go public and apologize to the Chinese that Mrs. Downey hasn’t died; option two is to take Mr. Downey and send him back to China; option three is to get the CIA to go out and kill Mrs. Downy. In this way, we can restore our relations with the Chinese."
Ford, "a wonderful person but not always the quickest one" according to Lord, failed to recognize the intended humor. He read the memo, looked at Kissinger, and said with a serious face, "Henry, these are not good options."
基辛格的书以“沉重”出名，因为厚，因为艰涩难懂。
一位书评人曾写道：“我不知道基辛格是否是一位伟大的作家，但任何能读完他这本书的人都是一位了不起的读者。”
另一位则说：“基辛格的书的问题在于，一旦你放下它，就再也拿不起来了(因为它太沉了)。”（在英语中，形容一本书引人入胜有一种常用的说法：“一旦你拿起这本书，就再也放不下了）
善于自嘲的基辛格在公开演讲中引用了这两位批评者的话。
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共情的能力
Pattern of empathy
弗格森在他的书中提到了基辛格的共情能力。
在战败后的德国，作为占领军情报官的基辛格对“敌对国的平民”握有“生杀大权”，然而作为犹太人的他拒绝与父母一起站在“复仇的一方”，简单粗暴地对待这些平民。
In his book, Ferguson, who sees "a pattern of empathy" in Kissinger's actions, tells how the young man, in a defeated Germany as a US army intelligence officer with power over enemy civilians, refused to simply stand with his parents "on the vengeful side", to use his words.
"Tome there is not only right or wrong but many shades in between…Real dilemmas are difficulties of the soul, provoking agonies, which you in your world of black and white can't even begin to comprehend," Kissinger wrote to his parents in July 1948.
基辛格在他于1948年7月给父母的信中写道：“对我而言，这个世界不仅仅只有对与错，黑与白，还有许多介于两者之间的种种灰色……人所处的真正的困境是灵魂的难以抉择，这会引发最深处的痛苦。这是你们在你们的黑白世界里根本无法理解的。”
"To me there is not only right or wrong but many shades in between…Real dilemmas are difficulties of the soul, provoking agonies, which you in your world of black and white can’t even begin to comprehend," Kissinger wrote to his parents in July 1948.
洛德还讲了另外一个故事。他回忆说，在正式结束越南战争的《巴黎和平协定》签署前的几年里：“白宫大门外每天都聚集着抗议示威者”。
In the years leading to the signing of the Paris Peace Accords, which officially ended the Vietnam War, there were "protestors outside the White House gates at all times", said Lord.
“其中有一个非常理想主义的年轻人，坚决进行绝食抗议。基辛格在媒体毫不知情的情况下偷偷溜出去和他谈话，倾听他的想法，赞扬他的理想主义，尽管这是他自己不认同的。”洛德说。
"There was one young, idealistic protester who went on a serious hunger strike. And Kissinger went out secretly to talk to him, listened to his concerns, praised him for his idealism even though he disagreed," said Lord. "He did this purely out of compassion and with no media knowledge."
后来，洛德和他的美籍华人妻子还带这位年轻人在基辛格最喜欢的一家中餐馆与基辛格共进了晚餐。
Later, Lord and his Chinese American wife took the young man to dinner with Kissinger, at one of Kissinger’s favorite Chinese restaurant.
In reflecting on the multifaceted life of Kissinger, it becomes apparent that he was a man of paradoxes, navigating the intricacies of diplomacy, politics, and intellect with a unique blend of wit and seriousness. Kissinger left an indelible mark on history; embodying the belief that diplomacy is not merely about solving problems but understanding the perpetual ebb and flow of relationships. As the world reflects on his legacy, it must grapple with the intricate dance between power, strategy, and compassion that defined the life of Henry Kissinger.
记者：赵旭
编辑：左卓