汪峰官宣新恋情

5月20日，汪峰官宣新恋情。他表示，“去年在我离婚两个月后的10月份，因为工作关系在新疆认识了李巧女士（森林北），……，认识大约四个月后我们开始交往。”

去年10月，汪峰章子怡官宣离婚。

借（cèng）此（gè）机（rè）会（diǎn），我们就来看看失恋、离婚等情感创伤的恢复期要多长时间。

🤔️小作业：

1. Based on the passage, why might it take longer to recover from an emotional trauma if the event was unexpected?

A) Because it involves more significant changes in one's life

B) Because the person has to undergo more rumination and analysis

C) Because the emotional shock is less intense

D) Because there are fewer support systems available

A) Because it can interfere with the grieving process

B) Because it shows denial of the trauma

C) Because it can create additional stress and postpone recovery

D) Because it demonstrates a lack of acceptance of the situation

无注释原文：

After Divorce or Job Loss Comes the Good Identity Crisis

From: The Wall Street Journal, July 30, 2013

Whether you've lost a job or a girlfriend, it won't take long before someone tells you, "Dust yourself off. Time heals all wounds."

Yes, but how much time?

Experts say most people should give themselves a good two years to recover from an emotional trauma such as a breakup or the loss of a job. And if you were blindsided by the event—your spouse left abruptly, you were fired unexpectedly—it could take longer.

That is more time than most people expect, says Prudence Gourguechon, a psychiatrist in Chicago and former president of the American Psychoanalytic Association. It's important to know roughly how long the emotional disruption will last. Once you get over the shock that it is going to be a long process, you can relax, Dr. Gourguechon says. "You don't have to feel pressure to be OK, because you're not OK."

Some experts call this recovery period an "identity crisis process." It is perfectly normal, they say, to feel depressed, anxious and distracted during this time—in other words, to be an emotional mess. (Getting over the death of a loved one is more complicated and typically will take even longer than two years, experts say.)

Some people may find they need less than two years to bounce back from a divorce. But experts caution that it probably doesn't pay to ignore the process, hurry it along or deny it, say, by immediately moving across the country to get a fresh start or diving into a new relationship. That will probably only postpone the day of reckoning.

After all, it takes time to rethink all the things that may be disrupted by emotional trauma, such as one's living situation, finances, professional goals and—maybe most important—how a person sees him or herself. There aren't any shortcuts. "The whole sweep of your life has to be reassessed and rewoven," Dr. Gourguechon says.

Recovering from a divorce or job loss actually involves two overlapping processes. There is the recovery from grief. And there is the even more time-consuming process of rebuilding the structure of your life. Where will you eat dinner? Who will your friends be? After all, if you are married, even if you hate your spouse, "you know when to show up and when to come home," Dr. Gourguechon says.

If you saw the loss coming—say you initiated the divorce—you are ahead of a person who was caught off guard. A person taken by surprise is "required to do a lot more rumination," says Sandra Petronio, a professor of communication at Indiana University-Purdue University, Indianapolis. "You need to do some type of analysis about what happened to you."

"People start thinking they are crazy because the things they usually do to right their ship—things like talking to their mother, asking their friends for help, getting some sleep—don't work anymore," says Ilene Dillon, a licensed clinical social worker in Kentfield, Calif. "And you have all these emotions that won't seem to stop."

To help yourself get through the process, accept that there is nothing wrong with you, even if your emotions feel overwhelming. Remind yourself that this period will end. Tell your friends and family that while you may not be your typical self for a while, you still need their support and you will recover.

Don't make any major, permanent changes, if you can help it, such as moving to a new city. Therapy can help, so you won't have to go through the process alone. As for a new relationship—forget about it.

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含注释全文：

After Divorce or Job Loss Comes the Good Identity Crisis

From: The Wall Street Journal, July 30, 2013

Whether you've lost a job or a girlfriend, it won't take long before someone tells you, "Dust yourself off. Time heals all wounds."

无论是失业还是失恋，你很快就会听到别人说，重新振作起来吧，时间会治愈一切创伤。

dust sth off表示“（尤指长时间不用后拿出来）备好待用，整理”，英文解释为“to prepare something for use, especially after it has not been used for a long time”举个🌰：It's time to dust off the old chemistry books and start studying. 现在应该把以前的化学书拿出来开始学习。

dust oneself off意思是让自己从过去的失败或不愉快的经历中恢复过来，重新振作起来。这个短语通常用在经历了一些挫折或不好的事情之后，表示要重新开始或重新准备去做某事。英文解释为“To ready oneself for something that one used to do, often after something unpleasant has happened.”

Yes, but how much time?

但究竟需要多长时间呢？

Experts say most people should give themselves a good two years to recover from an emotional trauma such as a breakup or the loss of a job. And if you were blindsided by the event—your spouse left abruptly, you were fired unexpectedly—it could take longer.

专家指出，大多数人应该给自己两年时间来从分手或失业等情感创伤中恢复过来。如果发生的事情让你猝不及防——配偶突然离开或意外被解雇——可能需要更长的时间。

trauma /ˈtrɔːmə/ /ˈtrɑː.mə/ 表示“精神创伤，心理创伤”，英文解释为“(a) severe emotional shock and pain caused by an extremely upsetting experience”举个🌰：He had psychotherapy to help him deal with his childhood traumas. 他进行了心理治疗以医治童年时代受到的心理创伤。

blindside /ˈblaɪnd.saɪd/ 表示“偷袭；出其不意地打击”，英文解释为“to surprise someone, usually with harmful results”举个🌰：Just when it seemed life was going well, she was blindsided by a devastating illness. 正当生活似乎一帆风顺的时候，她出人意料地得了一场重病。

spouse /spaʊs/ 表示“配偶”，英文解释为“a person's husband or wife”举个🌰：In 60 percent of the households surveyed both spouses went out to work. 在60%的被调查家庭中，夫妻双方都外出工作。

That is more time than most people expect, says Prudence Gourguechon, a psychiatrist in Chicago and former president of the American Psychoanalytic Association. It's important to know roughly how long the emotional disruption will last. Once you get over the shock that it is going to be a long process, you can relax, Dr. Gourguechon says. "You don't have to feel pressure to be OK, because you're not OK."

芝加哥精神科医生、美国精神分析协会前主席普鲁登丝·古尔格雄（Prudence Gourguechon）说，这比大多数人预期的时间要长。了解情绪紊乱大概会持续多长时间很重要。古尔格雄博士说，一旦你克服了那种震惊感，意识将要经历漫长的过程，你就能放松下来。“你不必为了好起来而感到压力，因为这需要时间。”

psychiatrist /saɪˈkaɪətrɪst/表示“精神病医生”，英文解释为“A psychiatrist is a doctor who treats people suffering from mental illness.”

psychoanalytic /ˌsaɪ.kəʊˈˌæn.əlˈɪt.ɪk/ 表示“精神（或心理）分析学的”，英文解释为“relating to psychoanalysis”

Some experts call this recovery period an "identity crisis process." It is perfectly normal, they say, to feel depressed, anxious and distracted during this time—in other words, to be an emotional mess. (Getting over the death of a loved one is more complicated and typically will take even longer than two years, experts say.)

一些专家将这段恢复期称为“认同危机过程”（identity crisis process）。他们说，在这段时间里感到沮丧、焦虑和心烦意乱是完全正常的，换句话说，就是情绪紊乱。（专家说，从亲人去世的阴影中走出来会更加复杂，通常需要超过两年的时间。）

distracted /dɪˈstræk.tɪd/ 表示“忧心忡忡的，焦虑的;困惑的”，英文解释为“nervous or confused because you are worried about something”举个🌰：She seems very distracted at the moment - I think she's worried about her brother. 她此时似乎非常焦虑——我想她是对弟弟有些担心。

complicated /ˈkɒm.plɪ.keɪ.tɪd/ 表示“复杂的；麻烦的；费解的”，英文解释为“involving a lot of different parts, in a way that is difficult to understand”如：complicated instructions 复杂的指令。

Some people may find they need less than two years to bounce back from a divorce. But experts caution that it probably doesn't pay to ignore the process, hurry it along or deny it, say, by immediately moving across the country to get a fresh start or diving into a new relationship. That will probably only postpone the day of reckoning.

有些人可能会发现自己只需要不到两年的时间就能从离婚中恢复过来。但专家提醒说，忽视、加快或否认这个过程，比如说，立即搬家重新开始或投入一段新的感情，可能是得不偿失的。这样做可能只是推迟面对现实的时间。

表示“恢复；恢复元气；重振旗鼓”，英文解释为“to start to be successful again after a difficult period, for example after experiencing failure, loss of confidence, illness, or unhappiness”举个🌰：Stock prices bounced back after a steep plunge earlier this week. 股票价格在本周早些时候急剧下跌后又回弹了。

caution /ˈkɔː.ʃən/ 作名词，表示“谨慎，小心，慎重”，英文解释为“great care and attention”举个🌰：We need to proceed with/exercise caution (= be careful in taking action, making decisions, etc.) 我们必须谨慎行事。

作动词，表示“告诫，提醒”，英文解释为“to warn someone”举个🌰：The newspaper cautioned its readers against buying shares without getting good advice first. 报纸告诫读者事先没有获得好的建议，不要购买股票。

pay /peɪ/ 表示“有收益，有利可图，有好处”，英文解释为“to give a profit or advantage to someone or something”举个🌰：It never pays to take risks where human safety is concerned. 凡是涉及人身安全时，冒险决不会有什么好处。Crime doesn't pay.犯罪是划不来的。It pays to keep up to date with your work.工作能跟上时代是有利的。

dive /daɪv/ 1）表示“（尤指头和手臂先入水的）跳水；下潜”，英文解释为“to jump into water, especially with your head and arms going in first, or to move down under the water”举个🌰：Look at those children diving for oysters over there! 看那边那些潜水摸牡蛎的孩子们！

2）表示“（通常指携带呼吸设备的）潜水”，英文解释为“to swim underwater, usually with breathing equipment”

📍dive in/dive into sth. 表示“贸然投入到…之中，介入；一心投入，钻研”，英文解释为“to start doing something suddenly and energetically, often without stopping to think”举个🌰：When I start a new project, I like to dive right in and see how it works. 开始一个新项目时，我喜欢立刻全心投入，看看情况会怎样。

postpone /pəʊstˈpəʊn/ 表示“推迟，延缓，使延期”，英文解释为“If you postpone an event, you delay it or arrange for it to take place at a later time than was originally planned.”举个🌰：He decided to postpone the expedition until the following day. 他决定将探险活动推迟到第二天。

📍路透社（Reuters）在报道上海高考延期、杭州亚运会延期时标题就都用的是Postpone.

1）表示“估计；估算；计算”，英文解释为“the act of calculating sth, especially in a way that is not very exact”举个🌰：By my reckoning you still owe me ￥100. 我算计着，你还欠我100元。

2）表示“最后审判日；算总账”，英文解释为“a time when sb's actions will be judged to be right or wrong and they may be punished”举个🌰：In the final reckoning truth is rewarded. 在最后算总账的时候，诚实的人会有好报。

📍文中，“reckoning”意味着一种道德上的评估或审视。它指的是在面对悲剧和破坏时，人们需要进行的一种内心的反思和道德上的判断。

After all, it takes time to rethink all the things that may be disrupted by emotional trauma, such as one's living situation, finances, professional goals and—maybe most important—how a person sees him or herself. There aren't any shortcuts. "The whole sweep of your life has to be reassessed and rewoven," Dr. Gourguechon says.

毕竟，重新思考所有可能被情感创伤打乱的事情，比如生活现状、财务状况、职业目标以及最重要的自我认知，都需要时间。没有任何捷径可走。古尔格雄博士说：“你生活的方方面面都必须重新评估和重新构建。”

shortcut /ˈʃɔːt.kʌt/ 1）表示“（计算机操作中的）快捷方式”，英文解释为“a quick way to start or use a computer program”如：a shortcut key 快捷键。

2）表示“（做事情的）快捷办法，捷径”，英文解释为“a quicker way of doing something”举个🌰：There aren't really any short cuts to learning English. 学英语实在没有捷径可走。

📍听到了吗？没有捷径，唯有每天持续行动，哈哈哈哈哈哈哈。

assess /əˈses/ 表示“评价;评定;对…估价”，英文解释为“to judge or decide the amount, value, quality, or importance of something”举个🌰：The insurers will need to assess the flood damage. 保险公司需要对洪水造成的损失进行估定。

weave /wiːv/ 的过去分词，weave 1）表示“（在织布机上）织，编，编织”，英文解释为“to make cloth by repeatedly crossing a single thread through two sets of long threads on a loom (= special frame)”举个🌰：This type of wool is woven into fabric which will make jackets. 这种羊毛被织成衣料，用来做外套。

2）表示“（通过糅合不同的事物）编写；编造”，英文解释为“to form something from several different things or to combine several different things, in a complicated or skilled way”举个🌰：The biography is woven from the many accounts which exist of things she did. 该传记是根据大量现存的对她的事迹的记载编写而成的。

Recovering from a divorce or job loss actually involves two overlapping processes. There is the recovery from grief. And there is the even more time-consuming process of rebuilding the structure of your life. Where will you eat dinner? Who will your friends be? After all, if you are married, even if you hate your spouse, "you know when to show up and when to come home," Dr. Gourguechon says.

从离婚或失业中恢复过来实际上涉及两个相互重叠的过程。一个过程是从悲伤中恢复。另一个是更耗时的过程，即重建你的生活结构。你将在何处吃晚餐？谁将成为你的朋友？毕竟，如果你结婚了，即使你讨厌你的配偶，“你也知道什么时候该出现，什么时候该回家”，古尔格雄博士说。

overlapping /ˌəʊ.vəˈlæp.ɪŋ/ 表示“交叠的，部分重叠的，叠盖的”，英文解释为“covering something partly by going over its edge, or covering part of the same space”举个🌰：The overlapping slates of the roofs in the mountain village resembled fish scales. 山村里屋顶叠盖的石板看上去像鱼鳞一样。

If you saw the loss coming—say you initiated the divorce—you are ahead of a person who was caught off guard. A person taken by surprise is "required to do a lot more rumination," says Sandra Petronio, a professor of communication at Indiana University-Purdue University, Indianapolis. "You need to do some type of analysis about what happened to you."

如果你预见到了这一天的到来——比如说你主动提出离婚——那么你就比那些措手不及的人更有优势。被突如其来事件打击的人“需要更多的反思”，印第安纳大学与普渡大学印第安纳波里斯联合分校（IUPUI）传播学教授桑德拉·佩特罗尼奥（Sandra Petronio）说，“你需要对发生在自己身上的事情进行一些分析。”

initiate /ɪˈnɪʃ.i.eɪt/ 表示“开始，创始”，英文解释为“to cause something to begin”举个🌰：Who initiated the violence? 谁先使用暴力的？

catch sb off guard表示“使（某人）措手不及；趁（某人）不警惕时（做某事）”，英文解释为“to surprise someone by doing something that they are not expecting or ready for”

rumination /ˌruː.mɪˈneɪ.ʃən/ 表示“沉思，长时间思考”，英文解释为“the act of thinking carefully and for a long period about something”

"People start thinking they are crazy because the things they usually do to right their ship—things like talking to their mother, asking their friends for help, getting some sleep—don't work anymore," says Ilene Dillon, a licensed clinical social worker in Kentfield, Calif. "And you have all these emotions that won't seem to stop."

“人们开始觉得自己快要崩溃了，因为平时用来调节情绪的方法——比如和母亲谈心、向朋友求助、好好睡一觉——现在都不起作用了，”加利福尼亚州肯特菲尔德持证临床社会工作者伊琳·狄龙（Ilene Dillon）说。“而且各种情绪似乎总是挥之不去。”

Right the ship是一个比喻性的表达，意思是“纠正局面”或“恢复正常状态”。这个短语源自航海术语，表示让船恢复正常航行状态，但在这里用来比喻人们通过某些方法让自己的生活或情绪恢复平衡。英文解释为“To correct a bad, problematic, or otherwise troubling situation.”

license /ˈlaɪ.səns/ 作名词，表示“许可证，执照，牌照”，英文解释为“an official document that gives you permission to own, do, or use something, usually after you have paid money and/or taken a test”如：a dog licence 养狗牌照。

作动词，表示“许可，授权，特许”，英文解释为“to give someone official permission to do or have something”举个🌰：Several companies have been licensed to sell these products. 一些公司获得了这些产品的销售许可。

clinical /ˈklɪn.ɪ.kəl/ 1）表示“门诊的，临床的”，英文解释为“used to refer to medical work or teaching that relates to the examination and treatment of ill people”如：clinical tests/training 临床试验/实习。

2）表示“冷漠的；无动于衷的；无感情的”，英文解释为“expressing no emotion or feelings”举个🌰：She seems to have a very clinical attitude towards her children. 她好像对子女们态度很冷漠。

To help yourself get through the process, accept that there is nothing wrong with you, even if your emotions feel overwhelming. Remind yourself that this period will end. Tell your friends and family that while you may not be your typical self for a while, you still need their support and you will recover.

为了帮助自己度过这一过程，要告诉自己：即使你的情绪感到难以承受，也并不代表你有问题。提醒自己，这个阶段会过去的。告诉你的朋友和家人，尽管你可能暂时不像平常那样，但你仍然需要他们的支持，并且你会好起来的。

overwhelming /ˌəʊ.vəˈwel.mɪŋ/ 1）表示“难以抵挡的；无法抗拒的；强悍而令人难以应对的”，英文解释为“difficult to fight against”举个🌰：She felt an overwhelming urge/desire/need to tell someone about what had happened. 她感到有一种抑制不住的冲动/欲望/需要想告诉别人所发生的事情。

2）表示“巨大的，极大的；（数量上）压倒性的”，英文解释为“You can use overwhelming to emphasize that an amount or quantity is much greater than other amounts or quantities.”举个🌰：An overwhelming majority has voted in favour of the proposal. 绝大多数的人投票赞成该提议。

📍词根“whelm”表示“淹没”，前缀“over-”表示“过度”。近义词：staggering（惊人的），同根词：whelm（淹没），常用短语：feel overwhelmed by something（被某事压垮）

Don't make any major, permanent changes, if you can help it, such as moving to a new city. Therapy can help, so you won't have to go through the process alone. As for a new relationship—forget about it.

如果可以的话，不要做出任何重大的、永久性的改变，比如搬到一个新城市。接受心理治疗会有所帮助，让你不必独自面对这个过程。至于新的恋情，还是算了吧。

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